GO- DO- BE

Before I begin my assent on to the soapbox could we do a little informal poll? I understand that there are some people who are actually on this site to meet and keep up with friends. This isn't for you. How many people are here to find someone to control his or her every thought? Take over every aspect of their lives? Pick the who, what, where and when of their lives. Please raise your left hands. Cool, you people may be excused too. Of those of you that are still left, how many are here looking to find a Heart? Not just any Heart. A Heart that is looking for a Heart like yours. Could you please raise your right hands? (Your other right hand silly) OK, that sure has dwindled down the crowd.

This is for you.

I believe that everyone left here in this group has some (if not many) requirements to finding said Heart. We sit in front of our screens, keyboard at hand and begin to list our entire dos and don'ts. Some have very long lists and some are quick and to the point. We post pictures (most of us do) that we hope will somehow attract the attention of that elusive thing we call love. Most of us then begin our search. Some just sit and wait.

You believe after many tries, many winks, e-mails, phone calls and maybe even a few dates that this person is "The One". Hold on! We're not to the happily ever after yet. Look real hard at this person. You can see that they have lived some life. Maybe allot of life. After the initial OMG moments hopefully you'll remember that this person has lived all of their years without you. Like wise you have done quite well living your life before you met them.

Hand in hand you begin your journey. Somewhere along this path you begin to look to this person to be your everything. You begin to bridle them with the awesome responsibility of making all the plans, developing all the dreams, and forever keeping you entertained. What if they don't really have any plans? What if they are happy just meandering through the day to day life that they live? How about all those dreams? Some people aren't really much of the dreaming kind. What if they can find entertainment in the simplest of tasks? Remember way back when? You raised your hand because you were looking for a Heart that was looking for a Heart like yours. You weren't looking for a cruise director. So...

...If there is some place you'd like to GO and you lover doesn't want to go with you. GO, with them or without them you'll probably have the time of your life. If they weren't there you'd have went anyway.

As a couple you'll find lots of stuff to keep you (as a couple) occupied. If you had hobbies, and interests and friends before you met. Keep all of those. DO the things you love to DO. Those things are what helps to define who you are. If you lay those things off to the side you'll grow to resent your lover. Perhaps if you continue and your lover sees the enjoyment you receive from those things they'll want to join in.

There used to be a commercial on TV for the Army. Its statement was a simple one. BE all you can BE. If you're kind, BE kind. If you're compassionate BE compassionate. BE the things that help define who you are. Don't stop the BE in your life for anyone.

If you can hold these things close to your spirit, GO, DO, BE. You'll never look at this Heart that has found a Heart like yours with anything but love. You'll never feel that you gave up self for love. "It's not suppose to be that way".

Thank You, Class Dismissed.